Call to Action: De-Push Your Child

Fear you may be over-parenting or pressuring your child? Here's an excellent checklist for parents with kids of any age.

Images added by me, all text directly from NPR.

The Perils Of Pushing Kids Too Hard, And How Parents Can Learn To Back Off

1. Start a conversation — and keep it going

"Ask your kids the question 'Am I pushing you too hard?' " says Colleen Fawcett, Wilton Youth Services coordinator. Don't just ask once, she says, ask it periodically and keep the line of communication open.

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2. Don't supervise everything

"It's OK to let them out of your sight," says Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow, an organization that promotes childhood resilience. Let kids choose activities to do by themselves, like going to the store or walking to the park. Try this exercise from Let Grow for giving kids more control, which can buffer anxiety and foster self-confidence.

 

3. Let them play

Unlike supervised activities, Skenazy says, free play teaches kids how to negotiate, compromise, make friends and communicate. "When we deprive children of unstructured playtime, they don't learn how to mature or deal with frustration or fear," she says.

4. Underschedule

"Try to counterbalance the highly competitive culture," says parent Vanessa Elias. Resist the temptation to overschedule your kids. Encourage them to limit their organized activities, and emphasize family time and downtime.

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